"hello Kate i hope you're super well! i cant remember who i have told and who i haven't its been such a haze but Phoenix Gibson Hatcher was born 9lb12 on Feb 20th at 3am all health and good ( albeit 12 days "overdue") i just wanted to say thanks again for your support during our course, what a total trip birth is!
I did it all on gas and air and everything on my birth plan (which was so influenced by you!!) was adhered to by lovely midwives at QEQM unit, I had music, warm pool, low lights, fake candles, clary sage, calm voices, no disturbances, only one examination when i arrived (at my request) and then no interventions except a doppler now and again. i breathed my way through contractions which saved my life and felt like i could handle it all thanks to our training. Perfect.
The twist in the tale comes as Phoenix was so huge, unbeknownst to us all, he got stuck when i was in the pool and bearing down so the midwives got me out and suggested everything in the book, all the positions, the stool bar you name it, to try and move him down past the pelvis but he didn't want to budge. I ended up having to flip onto my back at the last minute following a huge bleed, to see what was going on, and suddenly out he popped! Later leon said they actually had to pull him out by hand with four midwives trying to compress my perineum - after Phoenix was delivered on to me as i wanted, i realised ten mins later after being checked over, that I'd ended up with a third degree tear, so it was off for 45 mins in surgery, a spinal block and four days recovery on the ward. how opposite an experience can you get!?
You might think that such a heavily medicalised ending would be damaging to my memories, but i have to say that thanks to your advice of being ok with the less desired as well as the perfect outcome prepared me mentally very well indeed - the birth was such an intense, natural and empowering experience i didn't really mind about anything else, i actually found being in hospital helpful as i could ask midwives anything i wanted and the spinal blocker was pure heaven after 24 hours labour with nothing!
ANYway, sorry such a long email i wanted you to know that you really helped me and i'm almost healed totally now so will hopefully see you around margate soon!
I have such a newfound respect for anyone who has been through such an amazing thing as giving birth, you included!"
Emma, First-time Mum
Thank you so much for a wonderful course. We thoroughly enjoyed it and found it all so interesting and massively beneficial already. I will definitely be recommending Hypnobirthing, and you, to everyone! I already feel quite evangelical about it even just for the fact that it improves your emotions and mindset during those last weeks of pregnancy. Rather than feel anxious and nervous. I (we) feel "calm, confident and serene" (except when Jack's not playing ball, as is the case this evening!) We will of course keep you posted! And thank you, it's so lovely to have your support and know you're there if we need you."
Em, Second time Mum
"You were absolutely brilliant and it exceeded all our expectations. I will be recommending you to every pregnant person I meet."
Emma, Second time Mum